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October 26, 2009

Energy guide 10/26

Topic: Anger and Revenge

 

   This energy guide is related to the last one about boundaries.  As we have been redefining our boundaries this month, some of us have experienced ruptures in our relationships.  Some of these ruptures may have occurred a while ago but the effects on us are still present.  The end of October is about addressing those residual feelings that are impacting us.

     I have noticed that there seems to be an influx of negative energy.  People around me including myself are feeling angry, hurt, some are seeking revenge (actually or just in their minds).  There is this urge to stay stuck in the thick of things.  To continue to indulge in our negative thoughts.  Whether those thoughts are about the hurt and the details of what someone else, or a group of others did to us that led to our feeling hurt or angry.  Thoughts about self pity for having been involved in a situation that went bad. Or if the thoughts are about revenge and anger itself.  If we are stuck with that seething pain burning in us so that its all we can think about.  For some of us it may be that we are mad at God or the Universe for recent events and losses.  Some of us may even be holding on to anger at ourselves for making the choices that led to our pain.

     The message this week is that its time to take a deep breathe and step back.  There are important lessons and opportunities in whatever we just experienced.    When we are in the middle of it and surrounded by the raw emotion we can only see from our limited view.  From this limited view point there is always a "winner " or "loser", a " right" point of view or a "wrong" point of view.  We only see things through our lens and only get the skewed picture our mind wants us to see.  We say things to our selves like " I did everything and this is how the other person treats me", or we think " I obviously cared more" or " I can not believe some one would do this to me" or " What did I do for God to punish me like this?".  Or " Why am I so stupid, why did I make that choice?".  If you have noticed yourself having these kind of thoughts (like I have) the past few weeks, its time to take that step back.

     However we calm ourselves in a healthy way, whether its through yoga, meditation, walks in nature, cleaning, going out dancing, watching a movie, listen to music etc.  It is important to take time to step away from the negative feelings and get ourselves into a more positive frame of mind.  The world will not fall and no one will "get away with anything" if we let go of those feelings.   In fact we free ourselves to let the new come in by letting go.  The longer we hang on to resentment, anger, hurt the longer we keep ourselves from moving forward.  It is important to experiences those feelings.  I am by no means advocating stuffing and ignoring "bad" feelings.  What the message is about is letting go when we notice we seem to be clinging to those feelings, when we are not letting ourselves move on.

     Once we are in a positive frame of mind I am being shown that it is important to try to get our minds to widen our narrow view of our worlds.  It is important to try to take in the whole story in a nonjudgmental way.  To see that in every situation there is an interaction between ourselves and those around us.  We are all functioning from a place where we are trying to do our best.  Every move we make is justified in our own minds.  Once we can begin to believe this about the people around us it makes it easier to forgive the things they may do that hurt us.  We can see the pure motives behind the actions whether those motives are fear, hurt, anger, excitement, believing its the right thing etc.  We all function the same at the core.  We all beleive our actions are best in the moment.  Sometimes we just function from a damaged place and do things that inadvertently or purposely ( in the case of revenge) hurt the people we care about.  Sometimes we hurt people due to a higher purpose- such as setting them free to live their own path and their own truth or to free us to live ours.  This is rarely ever understood in the moment.  When we are set free or set others free there is often pain in the moment.  With time everyone involved sees the reason and knows it was the right thing and that they are now better off.  This is how it is with the Universe as well.  What may seem cruel or like a punishment is generally an new opportunity taking shape.  First something of the past must be let go of however.

    For the next few weeks its time to clean out our emotional closets to let go of pain and anger and look for ways to forgive those we perceived have wronged us.  After all, I can say that even though I have hurt people in my life it was never what I set out to do, I would think all of you can say the same.  It is time to release those negative feelings and reconnect to the big picture that we are all in this together and that even seemingly hurtful acts are all things that eventually lead us to where we are going.  Even when we hurt one another,  at a soul level it is being done from love and as a means to continue to push us forward.  Feel the feelings, cry, yell, hide do what ever you do to deal with the very real hurt that we all feel.  Then once those feeling have been experience get up, dust yourself off and let go of the anger, hurt, resentment, need for revenge.  Holding on to those will only serve to put us in shackles.  Letting go frees us, and allows us to appreciate the big picture- to gain a glimpse of someone else's perspective.  Maybe we can even learn something about ourselves by trying to truly understand what leads people around us  or ourselves to do things that lead to our feeling pain.  After all that is what we are here for- the chance to experience, learn, and grow.  

    Here is wishing us all peace of mind as we face these hard situations and hope that we can learn to understand ourselves and those around us on a deeper level so that we can accept and love eachother and finally let go of the pain.

 

With Love and Truth

Eve

 

 

web: evetoomey.com

Email: innerguidance@evetoomey.com 

Energy guide 10/26

Topic: Anger and Revenge

 

   This energy guide is related to the last one about boundaries.  As we have been redefining our boundaries this month, some of us have experienced ruptures in our relationships.  Some of these ruptures may have occurred a while ago but the effects on us are still present.  The end of October is about addressing those residual feelings that are impacting us.

     I have noticed that there seems to be an influx of negative energy.  People around me including myself are feeling angry, hurt, some are seeking revenge (actually or just in their minds).  There is this urge to stay stuck in the thick of things.  To continue to indulge in our negative thoughts.  Whether those thoughts are about the hurt and the details of what someone else, or a group of others did to us that led to our feeling hurt or angry.  Thoughts about self pity for having been involved in a situation that went bad. Or if the thoughts are about revenge and anger itself.  If we are stuck with that seething pain burning in us so that its all we can think about.  For some of us it may be that we are mad at God or the Universe for recent events and losses.  Some of us may even be holding on to anger at ourselves for making the choices that led to our pain.

     The message this week is that its time to take a deep breathe and step back.  There are important lessons and opportunities in whatever we just experienced.    When we are in the middle of it and surrounded by the raw emotion we can only see from our limited view.  From this limited view point there is always a "winner " or "loser", a " right" point of view or a "wrong" point of view.  We only see things through our lens and only get the skewed picture our mind wants us to see.  We say things to our selves like " I did everything and this is how the other person treats me", or we think " I obviously cared more" or " I can not believe some one would do this to me" or " What did I do for God to punish me like this?".  Or " Why am I so stupid, why did I make that choice?".  If you have noticed yourself having these kind of thoughts (like I have) the past few weeks, its time to take that step back.

     However we calm ourselves in a healthy way, whether its through yoga, meditation, walks in nature, cleaning, going out dancing, watching a movie, listen to music etc.  It is important to take time to step away from the negative feelings and get ourselves into a more positive frame of mind.  The world will not fall and no one will "get away with anything" if we let go of those feelings.   In fact we free ourselves to let the new come in by letting go.  The longer we hang on to resentment, anger, hurt the longer we keep ourselves from moving forward.  It is important to experiences those feelings.  I am by no means advocating stuffing and ignoring "bad" feelings.  What the message is about is letting go when we notice we seem to be clinging to those feelings, when we are not letting ourselves move on.

     Once we are in a positive frame of mind I am being shown that it is important to try to get our minds to widen our narrow view of our worlds.  It is important to try to take in the whole story in a nonjudgmental way.  To see that in every situation there is an interaction between ourselves and those around us.  We are all functioning from a place where we are trying to do our best.  Every move we make is justified in our own minds.  Once we can begin to believe this about the people around us it makes it easier to forgive the things they may do that hurt us.  We can see the pure motives behind the actions whether those motives are fear, hurt, anger, excitement, believing its the right thing etc.  We all function the same at the core.  We all beleive our actions are best in the moment.  Sometimes we just function from a damaged place and do things that inadvertently or purposely ( in the case of revenge) hurt the people we care about.  Sometimes we hurt people due to a higher purpose- such as setting them free to live their own path and their own truth or to free us to live ours.  This is rarely ever understood in the moment.  When we are set free or set others free there is often pain in the moment.  With time everyone involved sees the reason and knows it was the right thing and that they are now better off.  This is how it is with the Universe as well.  What may seem cruel or like a punishment is generally an new opportunity taking shape.  First something of the past must be let go of however.

    For the next few weeks its time to clean out our emotional closets to let go of pain and anger and look for ways to forgive those we perceived have wronged us.  After all, I can say that even though I have hurt people in my life it was never what I set out to do, I would think all of you can say the same.  It is time to release those negative feelings and reconnect to the big picture that we are all in this together and that even seemingly hurtful acts are all things that eventually lead us to where we are going.  Even when we hurt one another,  at a soul level it is being done from love and as a means to continue to push us forward.  Feel the feelings, cry, yell, hide do what ever you do to deal with the very real hurt that we all feel.  Then once those feeling have been experience get up, dust yourself off and let go of the anger, hurt, resentment, need for revenge.  Holding on to those will only serve to put us in shackles.  Letting go frees us, and allows us to appreciate the big picture- to gain a glimpse of someone else's perspective.  Maybe we can even learn something about ourselves by trying to truly understand what leads people around us  or ourselves to do things that lead to our feeling pain.  After all that is what we are here for- the chance to experience, learn, and grow.  

    Here is wishing us all peace of mind as we face these hard situations and hope that we can learn to understand ourselves and those around us on a deeper level so that we can accept and love eachother and finally let go of the pain.

 

With Love and Truth

Eve

 

 

web: evetoomey.com

Email: innerguidance@evetoomey.com 

October 09, 2009

Energy Guide 10/10/09

Topic: Boundaries

 

   I am being surrounded by the topic of boundaries these past few weeks.  It appears that October is going to be about defining and redefining boundaries.  I am seeing both sides of this issue.  I have seen friends and acquaintances that have poor boundaries and are allowing people to energetically attach and drain them. I have seen people like myself who over extend ourselves to our own detriment and do not honor the boundaries around the time and energy we spend on others.  Then there are those who's boundaries are so rigid and strong that they do not let other in (I have to admit I am also guilty of this one). 

     Whatever the case is for each of us as individuals, whether we can relate to one or all the above boundary issues, the month of October promises to challenge those boundaries and force us to look at redefining them in a healthier way.  We are being called to reexamine how we relate to one another.  To relook at how we seek to get our needs met and meet the needs of others.  Anything that is not serving our highest good , old patterns of how we relate to each other are being challenged.  The consequences of those old patterns are being magnified.

   So I am being asked to take each of the three above boundary issues and talk about how they work, what the function is and suggest possible ways I was shown on how to rethink those boundaries and how to shift them to something that will allow for more optimal functioning.

   So lets first look at the issue of others to attach to us energetically.  For those who begin into psychic work or healing work we often are amazed at the feeling of being connected to others.  We begin to try to feel people all the time.  It's fascinating to us.  Even those not into healing and psychic work do this with those they love or care deeply for.  We are constantly seeking to understand more, we want to feel as close as we can to those we care about.  We try to get close through connecting to an others soul.  This month the consequence of doing that are going to be more pronounced to show us the pitfalls and problems with attaching to others energy (especially when we are not invited to do so, or when we are doing it for reasons that are not serving our highest good).  I have been shown through my own experiences and through the experiences of those around me that this kind of connecting leads to taking on others emotional states and feelings and also can lead to a strong energetic drain.  Somewhere we got the idea that we need to draw energy from people and this has led to continual feelings of incompleteness and unending searching.

   So what can we do about this?  Well we need to break the pattern.  Whether the cords and attachments we form with others are from them towards us or from us towards them or any combination inbetween- the bottom line is that those cords need to be broken.  We are not meant to attach to eachother's energy- we are meant to have shared experiences and draw energy from the only true source, from the Universe, from God (which ever term you are most comfortable with).    I was reminded of a common concept learned in beginning psychic and healing classes.  It is extremely important to continually visualize or feel the connections we form consciously or unconsciously to others and to visualize breaking those connections.  Those connection can act as drains.  I was reminded this month of how we are to be connected through Universal energy/God energy not through these energetic cords.

    As we break those connections it is important to do so with love, not with anger or resentment.  Not wondering "why is this person attaching to me"  but rather to merely recognize the feeling of an attachment (a feeling akin to something pulling or emptying energy from us or something pulling our thoughts towards a person or situation).  It is important to notice those places our energy is being drawn from and to disconnect those connections with love.  Then allow God/ the 'universe to send love to healing you and the person or situation that was attached to you. All of this done while holding thoughts of love and compassion.   Once connections are cut and healing/love is sent out it is essential to clear ourselves.  To ask God/ the Universe to clear your mind, body, and soul- to feel love permeating through your body clearing away any negative energy.  I am being reminded of the importance of doing this in the morning (as many times our souls reach out at night and can try to form these connections),  it should also be done any time you notice a severe mood change, ruminating thoughts about a person or situation, or when you feel a draining feeling on your energy, and finally just before bed.  This has always been important to do, however most of us do not see the need to do it regularly- we simply forget.  The month of October is going to make the symptoms of not doing this disconnecting and clearing more pronounces so that we can see and understand the importance more fully.

   In the area of over extending ourselves the message is to begin practicing saying "no".  October is going to intensify  the impact of not drawing boundaries around the energy we expend in physical activities.  We will find this month that in trying to do everything for everyone we are feeling exhausted and completely depleted more often than we are used to.  The energy of this month is sending a strong message for those of us who have a habit of overextending that doing this has a negative impact on our overall well being.  Limit setting is going to become a must this month as we will find we simply can not handle the effects of expending all of our energy on others.  Not only that but our effort to reach out and help in ways beyond what we should will not be received.  In fact we will be resented for overextending and involving ourselves where we should not be involved. 

  The importance of taking time for ourselves to reconnect with the divinity inside of us is essential.  It is not just a good idea but will become essential this month.  Most of us can not live permanently in a state of out flowing energy.  At some point it is key to disconnect from the outflow of love to others temporarily and to just be connected to Source.  Even Jesus had to do this.  As he was healing others and spreading his message he periodically was noted to have taken breaks to meditate and reconnect to the Father.  This can be done by quiet meditation, by getting into nature, or by doing anything that brings joy and helps us to feel as though we are being filled with love.  Doing this allows us to give more to others eventually as well as to know appropriate times and ways to give for the highest good of others.  The importance of setting boundaries around how much we can do and allowing some "me time" is key.  October will increase the exhaustion and possible resentment feelings if we do not set these boundaries and take time for ourselves.

    Finally in the area of boundaries that are too rigid so that no one is allowed in.  Again the effects of doing this will be intensified this month.  The feeling of isolation and that nobody "gets" us will be prominent if this is the issue we are struggling with.  As we continue to present only a facade of perfection and strength we will further send a message to others around us that they are not needed.  We will increase our own isolation.

  The message around this is to begin to take risks.  We need to find one person we can let in- someone we can let see at least one imperfection, one insecurity and let that person know that softer/vulnerable side of ourselves. It could even mean realizing we are not an island and asking or reaching out for help from others. This is hard because often people who have rigid boundaries have them due to fears based on past rejection (real or imagined).  The fear that we will again be rejected is strong and it feels like a huge risk to let even one person know our vulnerabilities.  This month the consequence of not doing so will be made very apparent.  This is happening so we can see that the risk of being rejected or hurt is far less than what it is we lose by not letting others in, by not letting others see who we really are with our greatness and our faults.

  October is a positive month but it's a time to get honest about our patterns of relating to others.  Its time to realize the true Source of our inner strength and to begin to draw that strength from the proper places.  Its time to be real in who we are with others.  In doing so we will realize the joy of right connection and balanced sharing among eachother.

 

With Love and Truth

Eve

 

 

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